Making friends
Jamie was like a magnet---she always had a crowd around her. She wasn’t especially pretty, and she wasn’t particularly good at sports. But she was one of the most popular students at school. Everyone loved her!
Why? What was it about Jamie that made everyone notice her? If her looks and her talents weren’t anything to show off, what did she have going for her?
Here it is---short and simple---Jamie had learned the secret of how to make friends and keep them. Her secret is: Be nice to others! Jamie was kind and genuinely cared about others: people responded by wanting to be around her.
Going along with this big secret of making friends are a few additional suggestions:
SMILING SUGGESTS CONFIDENCE There is something fascinating about someone who smiles a lot. We are automatically drawn to someone who is happy. Wearing a smile usually implies the person behind it is approachable. An approachable person makes others feel at e
ase and comfortable.
Smiles also convey confidence, which is really important when making friends. You don’t have to actually feel confident to smile, but when you do, people will think you are. Furthermore, the more you smile, the more natural your smile will be. You’ll gain confidence from smiling!
LEARN TO LISTEN AND TALKalways friends Everyone wants to talk. We all have a story to tell. Each of us enjoys having someone listen to what we say. It makes us feel important when someone is truly interested in what we’re saying.
When other people find out you are willing to listen, they will be talking to you! When someone is talking to you, zero in 100 per cent on that person. Don’t pretend to listen but really think about something else. That won’t work in making friends.
Meanwhile, don’t put the burden of the entire conversation on someone else. You’ve got to do your part, too. It is learning when to talk that is important. Try not to talk just to hear yourself talking; no one else can get a word in.
Everyone should learn to give and take in any relationship. Learn to move from being the centre of attention to focusing on the needs of others. Modesty is extremely attractive.
TRY TO ADD VALUE TO THOSE AROUND YOU People light up when you recognize something they do well and let them know. It only takes a minute to give someone a compliment or to notice what gifts a person has. It automatically adds value to how they see themselves. Try to be the kind of person who’s always seeing the positive qualities in others. Don’t tear someone down.

交朋友（Making Friends）
    嘉美就像一块磁铁，她总有一人围着她。她不是特别漂亮，也不是特别擅长体育。但她在学校是最受欢迎的学生之一。每个人都爱她！
    为什么呢？在嘉美身上有什么使得每个人都注意她？如果她的长相和才能不足以炫耀，那是什么在支持着她？
这就是——简言之，嘉美已经学到如何交朋友并保持关系的秘诀。她的秘诀就是：对他人有善！嘉美很善良而且真诚地关心他人，人们通过希望在她身边这种方式来回应她的好心。
与交朋友的这个重大秘密一起的是一些另外的建议。
笑容代表自信。爱笑的人有。我们会自动被快乐的人吸引。面带笑容总是暗示这个人很随和，一个随和的人让别人觉得很轻松自在。
笑容同时传递自信，这点在交朋友时很重要。你不需要真的觉得自信地趣味小，但当你这样做了，人们会认为你是这样。另外，你笑的越多，你的笑就会越自然。你可以从微笑中获得自信！
学会倾听和交谈。每个人都希望交谈，我们都有故事要对别人诉说。我们每个人都喜欢有人倾听我们说的话。当别人真的对我们所讲的东西感兴趣这让我们觉得自己很重要。
当别人发现你愿意倾听，他们也会和你交谈！当别人在对你说话时，你应该将注意力百分之百地集中在那人身上。不要似乎在听而实际上却在想别的事情。那样对交朋友不起作用。
因此，不要把整个谈话的重担交给别人。你也应该做好你的那部分。学习何时交谈是很重要的。避免讲话声只有你自己能听见；没有人会听到你的话。
每个人都应该学会在任何一种关系中互相迁就。学会从成为人们关注的焦点到主义每个人的需求。谦虚是特别引人注意的。
给在你身旁的人多些赞美，人们会在你记起他们做过的好事而让他们知道时显得高兴。这只要你一分钟来给别人一些赞美或是注意到别人所拥有的才能。这回自动提升他们怎么看待自己的信心。试着成为总是能看到别人几级品质的那类人。不要贬低他人。